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Did you fall for a narcissist? You're not alone.

6/8/2026

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Recovering from narcissistic abuse in adult relationships requires an approach that addresses both psychological manipulation and its physiological imprint. Subtle, enduring cycles of relational trauma frequently stem from childhood dynamics. Research demonstrates that survivors of childhood narcissistic abuse often unconsciously select familiar partners in adulthood. This repetition is a normal, protective nervous system response—an instinctive pull toward the familiar, where chaotic dynamics are misread as safety.

The Nuanced Narcissistic Spectrum
In everyday life, narcissism rarely presents as overt vanity. Instead, it manifests in quiet, highly adaptive behavioral patterns that can be difficult to identify:
  • The Vulnerable Martyr (Covert): They control environments through conspicuous exhaustion, subtle sighs, and a chronic sense of unappreciation. They secure compliance by ensuring partners feel constantly responsible for their emotional comfort.
  • The Public Philanthropist (Communal): Celebrated externally for their generosity, empathy, and community investment, they reserve a detached, highly critical, or emotionally vacant persona exclusively for their intimate partner.
  • The Intellectual Arbiter (Cerebral): They weaponise logic, vocabulary, and perceived expertise to quietly dismantle a partner’s confidence. Disagreements are framed not as differences of opinion, but as proof of the partner's cognitive or emotional deficiency.
  • The Devotee (Spiritual): They use concepts such as mindfulness, psychological growth, or philosophy to evade accountability. A partner’s legitimate hurt is dismissed as "low vibration," unevolved, or a failure to forgive.

Sophisticated Trapping Dynamics
The strategies used to entrench these relationships are rarely aggressive at the outset. Instead, they rely on a gradual erosion of autonomy. A primary tactic is hyper-attentive isolation. A partner might encourage you to step back from a stressful job, distance yourself from a critical friend, or hand over financial management under the elegant guise of wanting to protect and care for you.

Once your external support structures are minimised, the dynamic shifts to ambient gaslighting. This does not involve absurd denials, but rather a steady, calm rewriting of shared history. They might conveniently misremember financial agreements, subtly alter details of past conversations, or express gentle concern about your "forgetfulness" or stress levels. Over time, you begin to doubt your own perception. When the emotional toll inevitably causes you to react with anger or despair, the abuser utilises reactive framing—contrasting their calm, collected demeanor against your visible distress to imply that you are the unstable element in the relationship.

Shifting Toward Somatic and Parts-Based Recovery
Undoing this deep conditioning requires moving beyond traditional talk therapy. Mental health practitioners increasingly utilise somatic work and parts-based work to address relational trauma.

Because prolonged psychological stress becomes physically trapped in the body, somatic therapies focus on two aspects of healing. Firstly, regulating a chronically defensive nervous system. Secondly, releasing trapped survival energy allows the body to complete defensive actions (such as pushing, running, or protecting itself) that could not be enacted during the traumatic event. Individuals are supported to process attachment wounds at a physiological level, rather than just intellectually analysing the abuse.

Concurrently, parts-based work helps individuals identify and soothe the internal protective parts learned in childhood to appease difficult personalities, ignore red flags, or sacrifice personal boundaries to maintain connection. To heal the aspects of their personality that were conditioned to accept manipulation or neglect.

Together, these evidence-based approaches offer a clinical pathway to restore safety, re-establish internal boundaries, and naturally shift the nervous system toward attracting healthy, reciprocal relationships.

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Briere, J., & Jordan, C. E. (2021). Complex trauma interventions and trauma-informed care: A comprehensive review. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 34(3), 562–575.
Goldstein, R. L., Snyder, M. H., & Harris, L. J. (2025). Validating the clinical safety, feasibility, and acceptability of body-oriented somatic therapies for post-traumatic stress. Journal of Mind-Body Regulation, 4(2), 114–128.
Cale, E. J., & Miller, S. R. (2022). Healing the fractured self: Evaluating parts-based inner-child processing for relational and narcissistic abuse survivors. Journal of Trauma & Dissociation, 23(4), 412–429.

Grabbe, L., Nicholson, A., & Sapp, M. (2025). The body can balance the score: Using a somatic self-care intervention to support well-being and promote healing. Healthcare, 13(11), Article 1258.
Kuhfuß, M., Maldei, T., Hetmanek, A., & Baumann, N. (2021). Somatic experiencing—Effectiveness and key factors of a body-oriented trauma therapy: A scoping literature review. European Journal of Psychotraumatology, 12(1), Article 1929023. [1]
Phan, H. T., & Taylor, J. R. (2026). From Somatic Experiencing to felt safety: Assessing the effects of brief body-oriented interventions on relational and social well-being. Traumatology, 32(1), 45–58.
Turner, L. M., & Smith, K. A. (2024). Navigating the aftermath of narcissistic manipulation: Ego-state and parts-informed interventions for chronic relationship stress. Clinical Psychology & Psychotherapy, 31(2), e2934
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How Childhood Trauma Can Show Up in Adult Relationships

6/2/2026

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Understanding fight, flight, freeze, fawn, and shutdown responses

Our early relationships play an important role in shaping how we experience safety, connection, and closeness in adulthood. When childhood involves trauma, emotional neglect, inconsistency, or unmet needs, the nervous system can adapt in ways that help us survive at the time, but may later show up as challenges in adult relationships.

Research in attachment theory and trauma psychology shows that early relational experiences are closely linked with how we regulate emotions and respond to stress in close relationships later in life (Simpson & Rholes, 2017; Bryant, 2023). These responses are not conscious choices — they are often automatic, protective patterns shaped by the nervous system.

When we feel unsafe or emotionally overwhelmed, the body may move into different survival states:
  • Fight can show up as anger, defensiveness, or a strong need to take control when feeling threatened.
  • Flight may appear as withdrawal, avoidance, or difficulty staying emotionally present.
  • Freeze can feel like shutting down, going blank, or finding it hard to respond.
  • Fawn often involves people-pleasing, over-apologising, or prioritising others’ needs to maintain connection.
  • Shutdown / faint responses may look like emotional numbing, dissociation, or feeling collapsed under stress.
These patterns are not signs of failure. They are intelligent survival responses developed in early environments where safety may have depended on adaptation.

With awareness and support, these responses can gradually become more flexible. Therapy can help create space to notice these patterns with compassion, understand where they come from, and develop new ways of relating that feel safer, more connected, and more aligned with your present life.

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Simpson, J. A., & Rholes, W. S. (2017). Adult attachment, stress, and romantic relationships. Current Opinion in Psychology.
Bryant, R. A. (2023). Attachment processes in posttraumatic stress disorder. Clinical Psychology Review.
Overall, N. C., et al. (2022). Attachment insecurity in couple relationships. Nature Reviews Psychology.
McLean, C. P., et al. (2020). Childhood trauma and adult attachment outcomes. Journal of Family Trauma Studies.
Yılmaz, H., Arslan, C., & Arslan, E. (2022). Traumatic experiences and attachment styles. Anales de Psicología.
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The best of both worlds: Therapy’s high-tech evolution

5/3/2026

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The future of therapy isn't a choice between a human and a bot—it’s the power of the hybrid.

By pairing a human therapist with AI support, we bridge the "care gap." Your therapist provides the secure attachment and neural resonance, while the AI acts as a 24/7 "pocket coach."

The good news? It works. Hybrid models solve the adherence crisis by combining human accountability with digital accessibility. You get the deep, transformative work in-session and immediate, data-driven coping tools between appointments. It’s not about replacement; it’s about reinforcement. Welcome to the high-tech, high-touch era of mental health.
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If this type of AI support interests you, check in with your therapist to find out which tools they recommend.

AKG Australia. (2026, February 20). AI vs human therapist in mental health support. https://akg.com.au/ai-vs-human-therapist-in-mental-health-support/
Chen, K., Huang, J. J., & Torous, J. (2024). Hybrid care in mental health: A framework for understanding care, research, and future opportunities. World Psychiatry, 23(3), 318–325. doi.org
Maidment, K., Newby, J., Grant, H., Lattimore, J., Pollard, P., Scott, N., & Whitton, A. (2026). AI in mental health roundtable report. Black Dog Institute. blackdoginstitute.org.au
Steidtmann, D., et al. (2025). Hybrid mental health care: 2025 research insights. Telehealth.org. https://telehealth.org/news/hybrid-mental-health-care-2025-research-insights/
Wei, M. (2025, April 1). AI therapy breakthrough: New study reveals promising results. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/urban-survival/202504/ai-therapy-breakthrough-new-study-reveals-promising-results
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Un-programmable: The biological edge of human therapy

5/3/2026

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While AI offers instant access, it can’t replace the biological necessity of human connection. Therapy isn't just data exchange; it’s a neurological event.

The biggest hurdle? Eye contact. Human gaze builds the safety required to foster secure attachment. Without it, the brain misses vital non-verbal cues that signal trust. This is amplified by mirror neurons—the brain’s empathy hardware. A human therapist literally "resonates" with your pain, a biological mirroring that AI can only simulate, not share.

The data confirms this gap. While AI can reduce symptoms short-term, it fails the "accountability test." Research shows a staggering 80% adherence rate for human therapy, while AI tools plummet to just 6%. Why? Because we heal through relationships, not algorithms. Without a real person witnessing your journey, engagement wanes. AI is a tool, but the human bond remains the only true engine for lasting psychological transformation.

AKG Australia. (2026, February 20). AI vs human therapist in mental health support. https://akg.com.au/ai-vs-human-therapist-in-mental-health-support/
Baumel, A., Muench, F., Edan, S., & Kane, J. M. (2019). Objective user engagement with mental health apps: Systematic search and panel-based usage analysis. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 21(9), e14567. doi.org [1, 2]
Franke Föyen, L., Zapel, E. C. M., Lekander, M., Hedman-Lagerlöf, E., & Lindsäter, E. (2025). Artificial intelligence vs. human expert: Licensed mental health clinicians' blinded evaluation of AI-generated and expert psychological advice on quality, empathy, and perceived authorship. Internet Interventions, 41, 100841. doi.org
Maidment, K., Newby, J., Grant, H., Lattimore, J., Pollard, P., Scott, N., & Whitton, A. (2026). AI in mental health roundtable report. Black Dog Institute. https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/BDI_AI-in-Mental-Health-Roundtable-9-Feb-2026.pdf [1, 2]
Performance of mental health chatbot agents in detecting and managing suicidal ideation. (2025). Scientific Reports, 15(31652). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-025-17242-4
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Insomnia: who is awake?

4/30/2026

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Insomnia often feels like an internal battle—one part of you is longing for sleep, another part is refusing to switch off. Parts theory offers a different lens: instead of fighting wakefulness, you get curious about it.

In a Parts-based therapeutic approach, restless thoughts are protective “parts,” attempting to anticipate risk or solve problems. When sleep won’t come, you might notice: “Something in me is trying to keep me awake.” This simple shift reduces internal conflict. You can then ask what that part needs. Often, it seeks reassurance—writing concerns down or offering calming self-talk can help. This aligns with the Hyperarousal Theory of Insomnia, where persistent cognitive and physiological activation maintains wakefulness across the 24-hour cycle.

Paradoxically, sleep becomes more accessible when control softens. Relating to thoughts as "parts" begins the important shift to creating internal safety—key for settling the nervous system.

​Need support? Reach out now

I have a history of chronic insomnia due to trauma. I have impeccable sleep hygiene. I've tried CBT-I, DBT, EFT, Mindfulness, Mindful Self-Compassion, Hypnosis, PMR, counting strategies, journaling, Sleep Apps, sounds, stories and guided meditations, natural remedies, and medication. Four months ago, I started working therapeutically with my traumatised "parts" to treat the insomnia. Finally, I can sleep.

Schwartz, R. C., & Sweezy, M. (2020). Internal family systems therapy (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.
Hodgdon, H. B., Anderson, F. G., Southwell, E., Hrubec, W., & Schwartz, R. (2022). Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) among Survivors of Multiple Childhood Trauma: A Pilot Effectiveness Study. Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment & Trauma, 31(1), 22–43. https://doi.org/10.1080/10926771.2021.2013375

Dai, Y., Ma, J., Vgontzas, A. N., Chen, B., Chen, L., Wu, J., Zheng, D., Zhang, J., Karataraki, M., & Li, Y. (2024). Insomnia disorder is associated with 24-hour cortical hyperarousal. Sleep medicine, 124, 681–687. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sleep.2024.11.002
Rösler, L., van Kesteren, E. J., Leerssen, J., van der Lande, G., Lakbila-Kamal, O., Foster-Dingley, J. C., Albers, A., & van Someren, E. J. (2024). Hyperarousal dynamics reveal an overnight increase boosted by insomnia. Journal of psychiatric research, 179, 279–285. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpsychires.2024.09.032


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Bolster your immune system by singing

1/19/2026

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Singing boosts immune competence, reducing vulnerability to illness (Kreutz et al., 2004).

People who sing have higher levels of Secretory Immunoglobulin A (SigA), an antibody that responds to the threat of infection in the upper respiratory tract (Kuhn, 2002). Notably, Beck (2000) found SigA increased by 150% during singing rehearsals, and 240% during vocal performance!

Unfortunately just listening to music doesn’t have the same effect. It’s the act of singing that stimulates the vagus nerve, engages deep rhythmic breathing and creates vocal vibration leading to an increase in SigA. The good news is that you don’t have to sing in tune or sound good to yourself. Just singing any way you like will do the job. So head down to the beach, jump in your car, or get together with a friend and sing!

Beck, R. J., Cesario, T. C., Yousefi, A., & Enamoto, H. (2000). Choral singing, performance perception, and immune system changes in salivary immunoglobulin a and cortisol. Music Perception, 18(1), 87–106. https://doi.org/10.2307/40285902
Kreutz, G., Bongard, S., Rohrmann, S. et al. (2004). Effects of Choir Singing or Listening on Secretory Immunoglobulin A, Cortisol, and Emotional State. J Behav Med, 27, 623–635. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10865-004-0006-9
Kuhn, D. (2002), The Effects of Active and Passive Participation in Musical Activity on the Immune System as Measured by Salivary Immunoglobulin A (SlgA), Journal of Music Therapy, 39 (1), 30–39, https://doi.org/10.1093/jmt/39.1.30
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The power of hug

11/24/2025

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Caring touch creates a sense of safety, emotional well-being and social connectedness. 

Simple acts such as putting your hand on your heart, belly or giving yourself a hug, increase self-compassion (Eli, 2024), because it activates the caregiving system (Longe et al., 2010). It also reduces cortisol, helping people to stay emotionally balanced (Longe et al., 2010). Hugging in particular has been found to elevate psychological resilience to stress, creating a protective buffer (Dreisoerner et al, 2021). Massage is particularly effective for increasing oxytocin (also known as the "love hormone"), and lowering blood pressure (Field, 2010). Even spending as little as twenty seconds with your hand on your heart activates the para-sympathetic nervous system which supports emotion regulation and increases positive emotions so we feel better (UCL & University of Derby, 2020). 

Daily micro-practices like hugging a loved one and putting your hand on your heart, as well as a bigger self-investment like having a massage, can help to maintain and increase mental health and well-being. 

References
Dreisoerner, A., Junker, N. M., Schlotz, W., Heimrich, J., Bloemeke, S., Ditzen, B., & van Dick, R. (2021). Self-soothing touch and being hugged reduce cortisol responses to stress: A randomized controlled trial on stress, physical touch, and social identity. Comprehensive psychoneuroendocrinology, 8, 100091. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpnec.2021.100091
Eli S. Susman, Serena Chen, Ann M. Kring, Allison G. Harvey. (2024). Daily micropractice can augment single-session interventions: A randomized controlled trial of self-compassionate touch and examining their associations with habit formation in US college students. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 175,104498. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brat.2024.104498
Field, T. (2010). Touch for socioemotional and physical well-being: A review. Developmental Review. 30, 4, 367-383. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.dr.2011.01.001
Longe, O., Maratos, F. A., Gilbert, P., Evans, G., Volker, F., Rockliff, H., & Rippon, G. (2010). Having a word with yourself: Neural correlates of self-criticism and self-reassurance. NeuroImage, 49(2), 1849–1856. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.neuroimage.2009.09.019
UCL & University of Derby (2020). Soothing touch and the physiology of self-compassion: A systematic review.
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Singing: a golden instrument of hope for dementia care

10/4/2025

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A dementia diagnosis is heartbreaking for everyone involved and inevitably hard to face. So how do you hang onto hope?
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​There is a strong body of evidence to show that singing delivers benefits for people living with dementia and their carers. This article will demonstrate the potential for singing to reduce agitation, improve mood, and promote positive social interaction. ​Further is the possibility to boost cognitive and motor function in the short-term improving quality of life overall.

Singing can increase amiability and reciprocity, and reduce difficult behavioural presentation such as aggression and resistance (Ridder et al. 2013). Hammar et al. (2014) found particularly good results for carers who introduced singing to showering and dressing, noting a significant reduction in agitation and aggression at what can often be a difficult period in the daily routine. It could reasonably follow that singing would help to soothe and calm people with dementia during “sundowning”, a phenomenon that typically occurs later in the day when people experience confusion, restlessness and anxiety.

Music, particularly favourite songs, can trigger positive emotions and memories. Singing has been shown to reduce depression and enhance mood to promote well-being (Thompson et al. 2021). Group singing in particular fosters social support, and a sense of belonging and community (Osman et al. 2016). Singing also promotes social interaction and communication, even when verbal communication skills are reduced. One study by Lesta and Petocz (2006) found a decrease in mumbling, touching clothes/face, and sitting alone, and an increase in eye contact, smiling and talking which remained high after the singing session.

Singing and movement preserves and improves motor coordination and balance. A small study of nine late-stage dementia patients carried out by Götell et al. (2003) saw improvement in dementia patient presentation after carer singing. Initial presentations included slumped posture, slow and asymmetric movement, listlessness, and low level spatial awareness in relation to the physical environment. After caregiver singing patients exhibited straightened posture, more movement symmetry, and increased cognisance of themselves in relation to their environment.

Singing has shown limited promise in slowing cognitive decline and improving cognitive function. One study by Scott & Kidd (2016) found that singing engages the function of memory and recall, strengthening this capacity in dementia patients. Tragantzopoulou & Giannouli (2025) found a small increase in psychomotor processing speed and a small reduction in neuropsychiatric dementia symptoms at the conclusion of 6 months of weekly singing sessions, though noted that the sample size was too small to be conclusive. Maguire et al. (2015), implemented a singing program for dementia patients which led to improvement in cognitive ability. The study showed that singers achieved significantly higher scores than music listeners. Specifically, the study fostered cognitive engagement through melodic structures, music arrangement, and developing the musical story.

Osman et al. (2016), found that singing supported people with dementia and their carers to accept the dementia diagnosis. This outcome may reasonably lead people to access appropriate support sooner after a dementia diagnosis, slowing decline.

Incorporating singing into dementia care supports improved quality of life and sense of connectedness for people living with dementia. This assists with accepting and coping with dementia. Participating in singing activities can also provide valuable benefit to carers in the form of improvement in mood and reduced stress levels.

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How I work with dementia clients
Importantly, I tailor the approach according to the individual. To support comfortable participation, I create a space that is safe and encouraging. The focus of activities is on engagement over performance. I sing along with clients to foster collaboration and interaction. Some of the specific ways I work include:
Singing together
Singing in harmony
Improvising to live piano and pre-recorded music in a variety of musical styles
Song writing, this may be as simple as singing the client’s name/names of their loved ones
Rhythmic activities: marching, clapping, leg patting and hands together clapping between client and therapist to music and/or while singing

Things you can try at home
Create a play-list of familiar songs - listen, sing along and/or dance
Remember loved songs to stimulate conversation about events and experiences from the past
Play music during meals, bath time, or other daily activities to create a stimulating and more enjoyable environment. 

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References
Hammar, L. M., Lovenmark, A., & Small, A. (2024). The benefits of caregiver signing and receptive music in dementia care: a qualitative study of professional caregivers’ experiences. Arts & Health, 17(2), 132-146. https://doi.org/10.1080/17533015.2024.2320248
Lesta, B., & Petocz, P. (2006). Familiar group singing: Addressing mood and social behaviour of residents with dementia displaying sundowning. Australian Journal of Music Therapy, 17, 2-17.
Maguire, L.E., Wanschura, P.B., Battaglia, M.M., Howell, S.N. and Flinn, J.M. (2015), Participation in Active Singing Leads to Cognitive Improvements in Individuals with Dementia. J Am Geriatr Soc, 63: 815-816. https://doi.org/10.1111/jgs.13366
Osman, S. E., Tischler, V., & Schneider, J. (2016). ‘Singing for the Brain’: a qualitative study exploring the health and well-being benefits of singing for people with dementia and their carers. Dementia, 15(6), 1326-1339.
Ridder, H. M., Stige, B., Qvale, L. G., & Gold, C. (2013). Individual music therapy for agitation in dementia: an exploratory randomized controlled trial. Aging & mental health, 17(6), 667–678. https://doi.org/10.1080/13607863.2013.790926
Scott, S. & Kidd, A. (2016), A scoping review of music and anxiety, depression and agitation in older people with dementia in residential facilities and specialist care units, European Geriatric Medicine, 7(5), 488-491. doi.org/10.1016/j.eurger.2016.07.007
Thompson Z., Baker F. A., Tamplin J., Clark I. N., (2021). How Singing can help people with dementia and their family care-partners: A mixed studies systematic review with narrative synthesis, thematic synthesis, and meta-integration. Front Psychology. 11;12:764372.
Tragantzopoulou, P., & Giannouli, V. (2025). A Song for the Mind: A Literature Review on Singing and Cognitive Health in Aging Populations. Brain sciences, 15(3), 227. https://doi.org/10.3390/brainsci15030227
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Let them eat cake. Sometimes.

8/8/2025

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It’s the end of the day. Your mind starts up. I wish I hadn’t eaten that. I wish I’d made it to the gym. I wish. You feel bad so you grab the ice-cream tub. Plop down on the couch. You deserve it. It's been a tough day. Ice-cream is friend. Or perhaps it's next level. You’re in full blown starvation or binge and purge mode. Exercising to exhaustion. Restricting what you eat to just one or two food groups. ​

How do you stop unwanted behaviour? 
A therapeutic approach stemming from the theory of Self and Parts could help. Assagioli, a contemporary of Freud and Jung began formulating Psychosynthesis in the early 1900’s. Assagioli (1965) coined the term sub-personality to depict the wounded and often conflicting ‘parts’ of our personality. We develop these as children to survive, but they can cause trouble later in life. 
The most recent iteration is Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy developed by Richard Schwartz (1995). Research supports the use of IFS to treat eating disorders. A pilot study of IFS by Mannerino et al. (2022) found a reduction in disordered eating symptoms and increased self-compassion in adults with binge eating disorder. Another study by Tellman et al. (2020) showed an increase in self-awareness and reduction in shame for adults using IFS. Lester (2017) highlights the capacity for an IFS approach to promote self-governance.
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How does this therapy work?
Consistent with a Psychosynthesis / IFS approach, I work from the premise that the mind is made up of the (adult) Self, and (younger) ‘parts’. The concept of the Adult Self is not a part. The Adult Self is the compassionate, kind and resourceful centre within each of us: capable of guiding, parenting and harmonising our internal 'parts' family. Each part has its own agenda, feelings and thoughts. These ‘parts’ may be seen as distinct aspects of the self. You may have a critic, a perfectionist, a starver, a binger. Take charge of these younger ‘parts’ and you stop being at the mercy of behaviours that don’t serve you (the right food or the right quantity).

We work together to uncover and get to know your ‘parts’. As you simultaneously create a more confident, robust and compassionate Adult Self, it becomes possible to heal the wounds carried by these younger ‘parts’. To integrate your internal family.

My approach focusses on the underlying emotional system driving disordered eating, rather than the external behaviours. An increase in self-awareness and ability to regulate emotions leads to the possibility of different life choices. With an emphasis on internal harmony, this approach is a powerful tool for long-term recovery.

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I bring deep empathy and understanding to this work with clients. I have recovered from three decades of eating disorders having experienced anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, restrictive eating, over exercising, and body dysmorphia.

References
Assagioli, R. (1965). Psychosynthesis: A manual of principles and techniques. Hobbs, Dorman & Company.
Lester, R. (2017). Self-governance, psychotherapy, and the subject of managed care: Internal Family Systems therapy and the multiple self in a US eating-disorders treatment center. American Ethnologist. 44. 10.1111/amet.12423.
Mannerino, A., Elkins, R. M., Laird, K. T., & Kumashiro, K. K. (2022). Internal Family Systems therapy for binge eating disorder: A pilot study. Eating Disorders, 30(2), 175–190. https://doi.org/10.1080/10640266.2020.1869595
Schwartz, R. C. (1995). Internal Family Systems Therapy. Guilford Press.
Tellman, S., Pugh, M., & Berry, K. (2020). Exploring client perspectives on Internal Family Systems therapy for eating disorders: A qualitative study. Journal of Eating Disorders, 8, 42. https://doi.org/10.1186/s40337-020-00316-w
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Singing: your stress antidote

7/14/2025

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Are you stressed?  Are you meta-stressed - stressed about being stressed?  Singing might help.

​I have experienced it many times: I start a workshop feeling tired and on empty, but I finish feeling energised. I've often heard workshop participants exclaim at the end of a workshop "it’s been so good to be in the moment and forget about what’s happening at home/work for an hour", and "I didn't feel like coming tonight but I made myself come because I always feel better by the end". This is backed up by studies that have found singing releases endorphins and oxytocin and alters emotional states (Fancourt et al, 2016). Singing can also lower levels of our stress hormone, cortisol  (Gunter, 2004). The effects of this change in our chemical state has been shown to reduce stress, anxiety and tension in the body, helping us to relax (Balsnes, 2018; Hurst, 2014; Clift and Morrison, 2011).

For those that commit to singing regularly, longitudinal studies have tracked a increase in sense of enjoyment and self-confidence, and improved emotional states such as elevated mood and greater emotional and self-awareness (Batt-Rawden and Andersen, 2020), results that have held steady for people in the longer term (Williams et al., 2018).

The capacity for singing to bring vitality, happiness and contentment is significant. The potential for singing to empower and delight is ours for the taking. The research is clear: singing is an essential health and life enhancing activity. As part of self-care practice singing is good for the mind and so, good for the body, heart and soul.

​Need support? Reach out now

References
Balsnes, A. H. (2018). Singing for a better life: choral singing and public health. In Bonde, L.O. and Theorell, T. (eds), Music and Public Health - A Nordic Perspective. pp. 167–186. Springer Verlag.
Batt-Rawden, K, Andersen, S, (2020). ’Singing has empowered, enchanted and enthralled me'-choirs for wellbeing? Health promotion international. 35.
Clift, S. and Morrison, I. (2011) Group singing fosters mental health and wellbeing: findings from the East Kent “singing for health” network project. Mental Health and Social Inclusion,15, 88–97.
Fancourt, D., Williamon, A., Carvalho, L. A., Steptoe, A., Dow, R. and Lewis, I. (2016) Singing modulates mood, stress, cortisol, cytokine and neuropeptide activity in cancer patients and carers. Ecancermedicalscience, 10, 1–14.
Gunter, K. (2004) Effects of choir singing or listening on secretory immunoglobulin A, cortisol and emotional state. Journal of Behavioural Medicine,27, 623–635.
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